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What is IEMT : Creating Change in the Blink of an Eye

What is IEMT : Creating Change in the Blink of an Eye

What is IEMT? Creating Change in the Blink of An Eye

Integral Eye Movement Therapy is a process where a practitioner can help you to detach negative emotions from memories and identities you hold by moving your eyes through a series of patterns. It can create huge emotional shifts in a short number of sessions and often in areas where other modes of therapy have not been effective. It is useful for all sorts of unhelpful emotions and patterns including anxiety, depression, lack of confidence, low self-esteem, PTS, trauma and many other emotional blocks.

You may be aware that certain situations or people can ‘trigger’ you.  That trigger is an emotional imprint that you learnt at some point earlier in your life and it is this that you are reacting to rather than the present reality. Clearly this is neither helpful nor does it enable you to think rationally so that you can respond in a proportionate way. 

What is an emotional imprint?

Say you come accross an angry barking dog as a child and it scares you, you might imprint this as ‘all dogs are scary’.  If the same person comes accross another angry barking dog later in life, it reinforces this imprint and will also add to it, this happens for all emotional imprints – especially if there is a repeat or worse event that is similar. This is the first event that created that negative pattern, otherwise known as an emotional imprint. A more extreme version might be a soldier back from war, who hears a car backfire… this subsequent event may cause a flashback to gunfire. 

We also acquire identity imprints which are our internal labels to people and things.  For instance: 

  • Our gender has an identity imprint;
  • Our roles – like parent, child, sibling, wife; 
  • Other people’s identity – like ex-boyfriend, Dad, Grandma etc.  
  • Also ‘things’ like – ‘that house’, the pub’, ‘my asthma’, ‘my back pain’, ‘my anxiety’.

Each identity or emotional imprint becomes embedded in our neurology and as indicated above, can be distorted, twisted and magnified as we go through life.  This happens to such an extent that we lose contact or forget what the original trigger was.

Often the issue that you are seeking help with now is not caused by what you think it is and so an IEMT practitioner helps you to peel away the layers of life, as with the layers of an onion, to find the key imprint that creates the core emotional shift for you.

In simple terms, the key questions I help you to resolve are:

“How did I learn to feel this way about that thing?”

“How did I learn to be this way?”

Why does it matter?

Some aspects of identity can be problematic. For example, an emotional imprint might be “I feel anxious” whilst an identity imprint might be “I am an anxious person” or even “I am a depressive.”  By specifically addressing the identity imprint, I help you to by-pass the beliefs that support that unhelpful identity: ”I cannot do that because of my anxiety” for instance.

Great for Sensitive Issues & Deep Trauma

IEMT does not require you to re-tell the story of your past traumas and issues, and unlike EMDR (see below for more about that), it doesn’t require you to re-live it either.  This makes it an ideal therapy for those who can’t verbalise their experiences, or who don’t want to delve back into the details of past traumas.  In therapeutic terms, we call this working ‘content free’, which essentially means that as a therapist I do not need to know the details of what you are working through in order to create those shifts for you.

What does IEMT have to do with empowering change makers?

I trained in IEMT because it was the therapy that created the biggest change for me when I was feeling overwhelmed, stuck and unable to think straight.  It helped me to deal with the trauma of watching a loved one on life support for an extended period of time, to get unstuck from a marriage and job that didn’t serve me and freed me from the identity that I was a victim, a powerless and unhappy person who had no choices.  These were the imprints that prevented me from believing I could be a successful entrepreneur, that stopped me believing that I could make a difference or that I could do or be anything that ‘other happier and more successful people’ could do.

Once I shifted the deeper rubbish I was carrying around with me I started to believe that I could be the conscious leader I want to be.   I understood that to have the impact on the greater external eco-system and create the community of change makers that I am now empowered to create, I first had to work on my internal landscape.  I now support anyone who is striving to have a positive impact on people and planet, because I know that to be an effective leader change must first come from within.

Is IEMT for me?

IEMT is for you if you are ready to create shifts and to let go of negative emotions and unhelpful patterns.  There are a few contraindications which mean that IEMT is not for you and this includes having an eye infection at the time of treatment.  I go through these with you on intake and am also guided by the ethics of the Association of IEMT Practitioners.

Do you use IEMT in a coaching session?

IEMT is deep therapeutic change work and not coaching.  If I am working with you on a purely coaching relationship because I am working with you via your organisation then I would discuss this as an option if it was not part of our original coaching contract.

With one to one coaching clients I often blend my tools so that I use IEMT to release those deeper negative emotions and patterns to get you into a calm and empowered state; I then offer ongoing support and accountability via coaching methodology. 

What is IEMT: the Origins…

IEMT was developed by Andrew T Austin from Steve and Connierae Andreas’ model of Eye Movement Integration and his own extensive observations of neurological phenomena.  IEMT is not EMDR, a therapy that was created in the 1980s.  For more about the differences between IEMT and EMDR read Andy’s blog post here.

Learn more about what is IEMT here.

I am here for YOU!

I have been on the journey to consious creativity and learned so much along the way.  There have been highs and many lows too! I now want to share my expertise to help and support you on your journey.  Get in touch if you are ready to level up, to step into your power and lead the way into consciously creating a life and business in harmony with our larger ecosystem.

What is an NLP Coach?

What is an NLP Coach?

As an NLP Coach I am often asked – ‘what is NLP’?  

Neural Linguistic Programming (NLP) was developed by Richard Bandler and John Grinder in the 1970s.  It is an effective process for facilitating change, reframing out dated habitual patterns and limiting beliefs and helps you  to access useful resource states to enable you to live a life that is in line with  your core values and your true calling.

Your language, your body and your beliefs and values are a gateway to your deeper self.  NLP enables me to navigate and understand the language of your inner neurology, to identify the limiting beliefs and feed them back to you so that we can find strategies and techniques that direct your unhelpful patterns and behaviours into a more useful direction.  

My coach explained it like this:

Imagine that you have a robot, when that  robot is initially created and hasnt been programmed yet it can be anything at all, its options are limitless. As the robot is exposed to the world, it writes its own software code.  This self-developed code enables the robot to interpret events around it so that it can navigate the world.

In creating code, the robot generalises certain experiences in to self defined categories; it deletes details that it deems to be unimportant and it distorts some information to fit experiences that it has already programmed.

Later in the lifetime of this robot, it tries to download a new app but the app doesnt work.  It doesnt work because the robot is trying to install the app into an old operating system that it created itsef 20, 30 maybe 40 or more years ago!

The robot that was created unprogrammed with unlimited options and opportunities is just like us when we are born.  As we navigate life we have new experiences, create new goals, a new level in our life, career or relationships that requires a new app (a new empowering belief) to make it work.  

The great news is that just like that robot, we programmed ourselves and so we can reprogramme our own operating systems to  facilitate the new roles we want later in life.  As a coach I help you to find the parts of the old operating system that arent working we can then delete those out dated beliefs and install new ones that serve you in today’s life.

What is an NLP Coach – how does it work?

There are a few common patterns I see that prevent change:

1. Trying to change the behaviour without looking at the beliefs underneath

Have you ever tried to change a habit, create a New Years resolution or create a new behaviour only to slip back into an old pattern soon after?

This is usually because we are effectively sticking a bandaid on an open wound, unless we stitch up the wound – it will keep on bleeding.  It is vital to look deeper at  what CAUSES the behaviour in the first place.  What positive intention does it have for you?  

Our brain is like an iceberg, only the tip floats above the water in our rational and conscious realm; only 5% is visible and in our awareness.  We only hold 7 (plus or minus 2) thoughts in our conscious awareness at any one time!  If you think about all the experiences we have in life it would feel pretty overwhelming to have them all in our conscious mind at once right!?  Think of the robot above, this is why he deletes, distort and generalises information.  We are the same,  we hold this vast mass of unconscious and habitual thoughts and processes under the surface driving our direction as we are taken by the tide of life.  By looking under the surface we can navigate the truths that drift there. For instance, smoking might be serving you by providing a form of relaxation.  So we need to find another way to relax before that behaviour will truly change.  

When you bring these unconscious processes into your conscious awareness you see options than you previously missed and can make informed choices to decide which new directions you want to go in.  Once you have awareness you can change who you are BEING! Change your way of being and shift the limiting beliefs to empowering ones and you can ACHIEVE  ANYTHING! 

An example of this, say you wanted to be a healthy person… if you have a fridge full of food that doesnt support that then you are not BEING the person you want to be.  If you believe you are already that healthy person you wont be putting junk food in there because you know it isnt who you are.

2. Blaming others for  your current way of being

This is a really common and hugely  disempowering pattern.  You  know the one… it usually starts “he/she did this to me” or  “it was my childhood /my parents / that job / that relationship / that event”.  Right now it could very well include ‘the pandemic’ or ‘the economy’ too.  Although I know that these are very real situations and issues that most of us are facing in life… by putting the impetus for change on others you take away all of your power.  No matter how hard we try, we cant change the  past, nor can we change what other people say or do… but we do have CHOICE about how we react and respond.  Put the choice outside of us and we lose power.

We create our own experience of the world, see the robot story above.  We make sense of our experiences by the stories we attach to them. Once we can see that these are stories and only our version of events we can start to re-write them in a way that empowers us.  By forgiving and seeing our own innocence in our  past stories we can then chose our actions and reactions from a more informed place of being.   I  help you to spot these out dated stories and create new ways that help you to achieve your goals.

3. Focussing on the problem not the solution

Where our attention goes our energy flows.  If we focus on the problem we are filling our capacity with problems and are not able to see the way out.  We are programmed to take the path of least resistance and so will look for things to confirm our beliefs.  A bit like the algorhythms on social media, if we start looking at cat memes more and more appear on our thread.  It is the same in life… look for the negative and you will find things that support those beliefs.  

Right now we are amid a pandemic… fear and hope are infectious.  If we spend our time focussed on hope the fear will blend into the background and vice versa.  

How does this relate to coaching?  Instead of thinking about the things you dont want… for instance “I dont want to be broke / I dont want to feel anxious / I dont want to feel trapped”, focus instead on WHAT DO I WANT?  Once you know that you are already on your way to achieving it!  Focus on the dont’s and you will never ge to the wants.  I can help you  to discover what it is that you truly deeply desire and get you on the path to achieving it.

NLP Coaching and Me

I came across NLP when navigating a particularly stormy patch in my life.  The fear monsters were jumping onto my ship and blocking my navigation systems left right and centre.  Now, I have the ability to surf the waves and know that it is an empowering methodology that enables me to be my own puppet master. I know that it has created the foundation for deep and lasting positive change.  Right now, I am hugely grateful for the skills and tools I have and for my own coach who supports me along the way.  

I am here for you if you want to explore coaching, head over to my coaching page for details.

 

What my clients are saying

"Working with Clare was a brilliant experience. Warm and personable, she will instantly put you at ease before surprising you with her spot-on insights. I'd never had IEMT before, but was blown away by how quickly the process literally drains away emotion from painful memories, leaving you free to get on with with your life. Clare has a whole toolkit of skills at her disposal, meaning she has everything she needs to help you get to where you want to be. I would heartily recommend her."

PB, writer.

What my clients are saying

"I have definately created stronger access to my  inner peace and have been able to step out of my story and into a new possibility...  The coaching experience was wonderful.  I trust Clare who always made me feel at ease.  It is also so obvious how much Clare truly cares."

S, Director.

What my clients are saying

"Clare is a wonderful practitioner, working with so much compassion and empathy. She has helped me make lasting change in my life and has helped me trust myself which is huge. I would highly recommend her coaching to anybody.."

MT, Director.

What my clients are saying

"Clare is a very grounded knowledgeable compassionate therapist. She took me through some parts of my past I had not been able to process at the time, and helped me to gather a new helpful perspective into my present life. Clare is doing magical healing work, and I couldn't recommend her enough. x"

Gem, Mentor to Yoga Teachers.